How to ask for a raise without feeling awkward
I have discussed compensation with numerous engineers over the years as their manager. Here is a playbook that will help you with that conversation.
Remember, no one gets the extra raise they don’t ask for!
Step 1: Inform the intent to discuss this topic in your next 1:1
Managers love coming prepared with answers. Do not put them on the spot with abrupt request like “my pay should be higher (or) I can get a higher offer at company X (or) if I do not get a raise, I have to quit” in an adhoc discussion.
In your weekly 1:1, say this - “I have another topic I want to discuss with you in our next 1:1. It is about compensation and the opportunities I have to better align it with my goals”
Step 2: Understand what is the limiting factor to get that raise
The goal is to know whether your role/title/job profile/performance has the potential to get you that additional raise.
Your manager will likely bring up the topic as they have already been primed. At this point, you can respond with “I am looking to increase my compensation in the range of X within the next N year(s). What do you think are my limiting factors to get there.”
Additional questions:
- Would a better performance at the current level help me get there?
- Do I need to get promoted to achieve that kind of a raise?
- Can such a raise happen mid year or has to wait until the next performance cycle?
- Is this range of X too high and not possible to achieve in my current trajectory?
- Feel free to ask any other clarifying questions at this point
Step 3: Work with your manager to crush the limiting factor
By now, you should have a clear idea of what is the limiting factor. If it is your performance, up your game. If it is the title, request your manager to help you with that promotion. If it is the role, pick up some new skills. No manager can promise you a raise, but they can commit to helping you achieve that over time.
Thank your manager and request them to help you achieve that goal and land that well-deserved raise! Btw, this is a win-win if you did not realize it.